One of the words which gets wiped out from our vocabulary is the two lettered one which would make our lives a lot easier. And the two-letter word happens to be 'NO'. The word denotes a negative response and it is not good to be associated with anything negative.... right?..... No, wrong..... absolutley wrong. This negative response sometimes can denote the kind of values that you suppport and your stand on a particular situation.
In today's competitive world where everyone wants 'success' .... 'success' as in a bigger house, a bigger car, a bigger bank balance ..... most choose the easy way out by being a 'Yes Man' to the big heads of the organisation. That is the only way that they know how to beat the competition and get ahead in life. They have somewhere lost their faith on good old hard work and dedication. Nothing is a problem and everything is acheivable for these yes men. But their in-ability to say a 'No' at the right places and to the right people has got too much of costs associated with it. Costs which are not immediately apparent but life does not spare the costs that that he has to bear. Unfortunately, some of the cost is also borne by others who are associated with him. Do you think that it is fair?
Every individual has a set of values and rules that he has inculcated from his family and his peers. A persons's character is built by these. It is good to stand up for your values and traditions even if it means dis-pleasing a powerful few or a few near and dear ones. At least you would not have compromised on your own self in order to reach where-ever it is that you want to reach. Say a No when you think that it is compromising on your ownself and your self worth. Is anything more worthy than your own self-worth? If the answer to the question is 'No' then you just need to be a little more confident and assertive in saying a No and making your opinion known to the other person. If the answer to the question is 'Yes'.... then my friend you need to start from building a healthy self worth through self analysis before proceeding further.
There are many ways of saying a 'No'... depends from one person to another and situation to situation.
There are people who like to hear a straightforward 'No' and communicate a starightforward 'No' too.... but such people are very few and rare. Some can say it but cannot take it..... human nature after all. But my take is that if you can dish it out you should also know how to take it.
Then there are another set of people who have BIG egos and cannot take a no. One of the best ways to saying a 'No' to them is by using positive sentences only. Do not say a 'No' directly to them. I other words I am saying is that make good use of all the wide variety of excuses that one tells their elders to get out of a sticky situation without saying a 'No' ;-). Better still if you have an alternative plan of action then it might be a good place to put it forward and gain some appreciation for yourself... hopefully.
Remember, the tone that one uses, the language used, the context that it is used in and the person at the receiving end of the decision actually determine the effect that your 'No' has. But would you rather say a 'No' or would you rather live a life where your opinion is of the least significance and cannot stand up for yourslef.... think about it.......
In today's competitive world where everyone wants 'success' .... 'success' as in a bigger house, a bigger car, a bigger bank balance ..... most choose the easy way out by being a 'Yes Man' to the big heads of the organisation. That is the only way that they know how to beat the competition and get ahead in life. They have somewhere lost their faith on good old hard work and dedication. Nothing is a problem and everything is acheivable for these yes men. But their in-ability to say a 'No' at the right places and to the right people has got too much of costs associated with it. Costs which are not immediately apparent but life does not spare the costs that that he has to bear. Unfortunately, some of the cost is also borne by others who are associated with him. Do you think that it is fair?
Every individual has a set of values and rules that he has inculcated from his family and his peers. A persons's character is built by these. It is good to stand up for your values and traditions even if it means dis-pleasing a powerful few or a few near and dear ones. At least you would not have compromised on your own self in order to reach where-ever it is that you want to reach. Say a No when you think that it is compromising on your ownself and your self worth. Is anything more worthy than your own self-worth? If the answer to the question is 'No' then you just need to be a little more confident and assertive in saying a No and making your opinion known to the other person. If the answer to the question is 'Yes'.... then my friend you need to start from building a healthy self worth through self analysis before proceeding further.
There are many ways of saying a 'No'... depends from one person to another and situation to situation.
There are people who like to hear a straightforward 'No' and communicate a starightforward 'No' too.... but such people are very few and rare. Some can say it but cannot take it..... human nature after all. But my take is that if you can dish it out you should also know how to take it.
Then there are another set of people who have BIG egos and cannot take a no. One of the best ways to saying a 'No' to them is by using positive sentences only. Do not say a 'No' directly to them. I other words I am saying is that make good use of all the wide variety of excuses that one tells their elders to get out of a sticky situation without saying a 'No' ;-). Better still if you have an alternative plan of action then it might be a good place to put it forward and gain some appreciation for yourself... hopefully.
Remember, the tone that one uses, the language used, the context that it is used in and the person at the receiving end of the decision actually determine the effect that your 'No' has. But would you rather say a 'No' or would you rather live a life where your opinion is of the least significance and cannot stand up for yourslef.... think about it.......
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