The Difference is the Language

I was reading a random article on the internet on positive thinking/ positive attitude. One of the points that really struck me was that the author had stated in plain emphatic words one of the facts that I have ingrained as a part on my personality through the years.

One of the points mentioned by the author was that language determines your destiny. I would like to quote the author here since it has held so true in my journey:

“Your Language Determines Your Destiny. Make sure that your thoughts and words are positive. The language you use, whether spoken or not must be positive. People don't know what you're thinking but this doesn't give you permission to be inconsistent. Line up your thoughts and words with the kind of person you want to be. The language you use can either build you up or psych you out. Any negative statement can be reframed in a more positive manner. Watch out for statements that predict negative outcomes.”

It is like saying whether the glass is half empty or whether it is half full. In this context the word empty denotes negativity whereas the word full denotes positivism. Just to illustrate it a little further – instead of saying “The way you have done it is wrong. The desired objective has not been achieved.” try saying “The way you have done it has achieved some results but if we could possibly do it this way then the results would be achieved completely and speedily because of the following reasons…….” . The latter statement does not question the competence of the other person but conveys very firmly that you are not happy about the way the work has been handled and you also guide him to the correct manner by using influence instead of authority. In short, you show him the respect and he will return it…. simple.

I have tried using the latter approach in all my communications ever since and have judged for myself the change in the attitude that people have towards me. And I can gleefully state that IT WORKS. For centuries it has been said that the word is mightier than the sword. It certainly holds very true to become an emotionally intelligent positive individual. The spoken word is more powerful than the written word is as the spoken word is underlined/ enhanced by the use of body language and tone of voice. Learning a language is a power that you can equip yourself with but knowing how to use it is the key which differentiates you as a positive or a negative person.

Schooling yourself to use words in a definite form reflects your personality and allows you to achieve goals and ultimately contentment. One of the tips that can be used to school oneself into framing a positive line of thoughtful words is as follows (quoting the author again here):

“Look For The Good In Everyone You Meet And In Every Situation You Find Yourself In. I know it is harder to see in some people and in some situations but everyone has their good points and so will every situation.”

This helps. Try it out and see. It will also increase the sense of contentment and achievement that one feels.

So while building a positive attitude… mind your language.